Wow, it’s been a WHILE since we’ve connected. I got a little busy with life, an unexpected move, and work, so my family and I went on a holiday for a few weeks to recalibrate.

The lead up to going away always includes so much unnecessary admin, and it’s like there’s a force that can sense when you start to get ready to leave, and just to mess with your head, will send more work opportunities your way that are viable for THAT WEEK ONLY.

And when I pack, I always pack so many extra undies as though I’m planning to crap myself every day. (Do you do this as well?!)

Thankfully that never happened, and I got to switch off for 2 glorious weeks and rest deeply while in Bali. I got back almost 5 weeks ago and have only just caught my breath after I hit the ground sprinting. BIG lesson not to do that again… (my toxic trait is that I think I’m invincible). 🫠🫠

A week after I got back, I realised that I’d released a deep emotional pang that I’ve held in my heart and energetic field for over a decade. Just like that, POOF, it was gone. And it’s not like I had been stewing on it. In fact, I just realised it no longer triggered me when someone asked me about it only recently.

I also made a difficult decision about a work collaboration that I’d been percolating on for a year. Although it was only 2 short weeks away, the person that came back (me!) no longer felt aligned with that connection and in 4 days, I severed a tie that I’d been conflicted about for over a year.

I don’t think I can put my clarity into words. There’s just something magical (and invisible) that slots into place when you give yourself a circuit breaker. Time is a therapist and extra unstructured space just makes things simpler, and clearer.

And just as bloody well, because this last month has been very heavy for many of my clients who have needed extra support with their transitions. Some have made decisions which has meant their family has chosen to estrange themselves from them, as have their communities, in addition to employment loss and decades-long friendships falling apart.

 

As Esther Perel says, “taking in snippets of current events like we have been, has a corrosive effect on the mind. We’re not meant to process conflict and trauma this way. The inundation of information without context is overwhelming. The avalanche of data leaves you emotionally spinning, and you soon realize that you’re not actually processing the information.

And that communication—particularly the kind that is shocking and soul-crushing—doesn’t leave your system as quickly as it entered in the form of headlines, tweets, and memes. The information sits in your body: a rock on your heart, a pit in your stomach. It scratches at your insides.”

 

The world has been a very heavy place since early October. (My IG stories is the space where I share my political views, I deliberately choose not to do that here, as it’s not what you signed up for).

It’s unnatural to see the state of the world and carry on like everything is fine. It’s OK to not be OK. And as Krishnamurti says, “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a sick society.

I’m happy to share that for the next 2 weeks my calendar has more days available than usual before I break for Christmas and the new year.

If this calls to you, please feel free to reach out and book a time so I can support you, especially if coming together with family might be stretching your inner resources or breaching your boundaries.

This will be my final newsletter until 2024, and if we don’t cross paths before then, I want to take this opportunity to thank you for being here, and to wish you all the strength, wonder, joy, abundance, and peace for the new year.

With love,
Patty Kikos

P.S. If you need to catchup on some podcast interviews, there are 3 episodes you may have missed.

Sharon is the CEO of WayAhead, and she thought that she had her caring role all figured out when her daughter Amber was born with a physical & mild intellectual disability. Imagine the triumph and the pride she felt when Amber started competing in dressage comps with able bodied riders, even though Amber can’t actually kick or catch a ball. But their lives were turned upside down again when Amber was diagnosed with schizophrenia at 22, and Sharon and her family had to learn to become different types of carers. SPOTIFY / iTUNES

I feel sorry for the PR Team that gets hired to do the marketing for government organisations, as they have a notorious reputation for keeping you on hold for a long time. My record was 1 hour, and 45 minutes and I’m shocked I didn’t lose the will to live. Services Australia were initially reluctant to speak to me, but I wore them down, and they sent me an incredible spokesperson to explain the difference between payments, along with the respective eligibility criteria for each one. SPOTIFY / iTUNES

When I taught yoga full time, I became friends with Mitch, an incredible woman/ yogini and I wanted to share her story for a long time, as I knew her partner Mark had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She sold her business to care for him which is a big deal when your livelihood is so enmeshed with your personality and reputation. Fast forward a few years later and she is in the process of reinventing herself, while healing and holding the space for others to do the same. SPOTIFY / iTUNES