An opportunity to give a voice to the unseen role of a carer was created this year, and so was the podcast that I now proudly host, called ‘Carer Conversations’.
Cognitive dissonance is that uncomfortable feeling you get when you try to maintain 2 or more inconsistent beliefs at the same time, or when you believe 1 thing, but act in a conflicting way.
For example, we commit to losing weight but then overindulge on chocolate. The discrepancy can be unnerving, and people will often try to eliminate the dissonance by changing their attitudes. So, to feel better about cheating on our diet, we may tell ourselves that we will go for a run tomorrow.
Trying to balance too much can lead to stress or overwhelm. I find that when if the weight I’m carrying is too heavy a load, or I’ve been carrying it for too long, the first to go is my sense of humour. Soon after that, I become snarky and snappy, and then my tolerance (or lack thereof) moves to a whole other dimension, quite like the OPPOSITE of spiritual ascension.
We arrived for the training from many different states, and as is customary, did a round of intros at the beginning.
Often in introductions we think of our impressive accomplishments and try to feign a sense of nonchalance, as we relay our myriad of experiences, so that it gives off some kind impressive street cred. Well, at least I do that.
For the first time, I simply stated I was a student. I was here to learn, then to unlearn and to relearn all over again. And to practice. And potentially get it very wrong in front of people that had the credibility to give me constructive feedback, but also crush my ego.
“All or Nothing”. No wonder we chase the dopamine and get addicted to the adrenalin. The ALL is glorious. It’s ubiquitous and inspirational and has the frequency to channel our dreams and then journey them into reality. But the NOTHING is where the gold nuggets can also land as a profound vision. And if we make the room for them to spread with enough space, maybe we won’t need to be part of the meticulous planning of the journey.
As always, I hope this message finds you well. Perhaps my intention in asking you this, is a little more nuanced than usual. I have recently been in contact with some friends who made the decision to leave Sydney in the last few years. At the time of their departure,...
Today is a magical day of matching numbers as we say hello to 22/2/22. I’m particularly excited as I will be the celebrant for a friend of mine who is marrying her beloved later this afternoon.
If we want to change our habits, we need to set ourselves up for a good routine, so we need to arrange a deliberate or intentional practice behind it. For me to have that daily swim, I need to stay committed to stop work by a certain time. Old engrained workaholic tendencies are harder to release than I’d originally thought.
The upside is that I have something to look forward to at the end of the day, and the downside is that some tasks remain unfinished. The bonus is that any perfectionistic tendencies within me need to build a bridge and get over it, and the real gold that has emerged, is that I have a lighter mental load and therefore more space to feel inspired to create and to write.
You can do better
But you couldn’t have done better.
Doing your best is a future tense activity.
It cannot be applied to the past.
Because if you could have done better, you would have.
Resilience is an innate capacity we are born with to return to a baseline of good health and vitality when we’ve experienced an accident, injury, loss or trauma